Going through a divorce typically causes intense feelings for both spouses, and nearly all of them are not positive. However, most couples still want to make the process of ending a marriage as painless as possible.
Still, many are unsure of the best way to pursue a divorce. Should you work together with your soon-to-be-ex to find an acceptable outcome? Or, if your marriage deteriorated into a toxic relationship, are you fixated on “having your day in court?”
Probably the best advice anyone can give is not to let your emotions dictate how your divorce will look. Instead, carefully weigh these four factors in determining the route that makes the most sense:
Spouses with unfaithful or neglectful partners often think of litigation as the only way to “get back” at the other party. While those feelings may be justified, judges typically don’t want to hear about grievances with your spouse. They expect fact-based arguments on why you deserve more time with your kids, a larger share of marital assets, or higher support payments.
Working with an experienced family law attorney is the optimal way to sort through these considerations and find the best outcome causing the fewest emotional scars. A knowledgeable attorney can help you decide when cooperation is likely to bring the best result. Likewise, your lawyer will aggressively fight for your interests if litigation becomes necessary.