The circumstances surrounding your decision to divorce were almost certainly unpleasant. Perhaps you and your spouse had been growing apart for years. Or perhaps a single, awful event inspired your need to file for divorce. No matter how you came to your decision to divorce, you likely are not prepared for all of the realities that divorce entails. You may be more or less prepared than others filing for divorce, but chances are that you still have some work to do.
When mentally preparing for the remainder of your divorce process and for your life post-divorce, it is generally a good idea to refocus your values and priorities. If you can hold onto whatever is most important about yourself, your home life and your approach to the future, chances are that you will be able to weather divorce-related storms more successfully than if you feel that your most sacred priorities have been lost or misplaced.
Similarly, if you take excellent care of yourself during the remainder of your divorce process, you will be more likely to focus on those issues that matter. Divorce is almost always unpleasant and it almost always inspires stress and practical challenges. If you prepare yourself mentally for these challenges by taking care of your physical and emotional self, these challenges will be less likely to best you in the end.
Finally, if you are feeling overwhelmed or unable to properly focus and take excellent care of yourself, please do not hesitate to speak with a counselor. We all need some support from time to time and seeking support may therefore be the best move you can make right now.
: The Huffington Post, “10 Things To Know About Divorce From Someone Going Through It Right Now,” DivorcedMoms.com, Oct. 12, 2014