We frequently observe that no two marriages are exactly alike. As a result, there is no one “right” way to determine whether or not a marriage should come to an end. Many couples seek guidance on this issue from marriage counselors. If you are considering counseling, you certainly may benefit from it. However, it is important to think carefully about the counseling process before you commit to this investment in your marriage.

Marriage counseling can help spouses to articulate their problems. In many cases, this process can aid couples in working through them. Sometimes the marriage counseling process is completed when a couple feels confident in their union again. Other times, couples conclude that they should separate or divorce. If a clear resolution is reached and participants feel confident that they are making the healthiest decision for them, counseling can be tremendously beneficial.

However, it is important to consider some boundaries when seeking marriage counseling. Some couples find themselves attending counseling sessions for years without progressing towards a healthier future either together or apart. It is therefore important to understand that it is not the counseling itself that is the “answer” to the question of whether or not you should remain married to your spouse. It is what you do with the knowledge you gain from the process that matters most.

Finally, it is vitally important to note that if your spouse is abusive and you opt to seek counseling instead of a restraining order, please seek protection if the abusive behaviors do not stop immediately.

Source: Pop Sugar, “Should You Seek Marriage Counseling?” Laura Lifshitz, April 20, 2015