Divorce can be devastating for everyone involved. If you have children together, it is important that you figure out how to navigate life post-divorce and give your little ones the best parenting possible. Remember, even though the marriage is over, you are still parents to your children, and you have a duty to perform your parental roles.
Once the dust has settled on the divorce, you need to shift gears and focus on one of the most important things: effective co-parenting. Here are simple tips that can help you be the best co-parent to your children.
It is not unusual for divorced parents to drag children into their differences. This is especially common when the divorce is acrimonious. This is wrong. You do not want to get your children in a position where they will have to take sides. Besides, this could amount to parental alienation, and it can cost you your custody or visitation rights if it comes to the attention of the court.
A great rule of thumb is to avoid saying anything negative about your ex to the children. Even if your ex is not fulfilling their parental duties, do not vent to the kids about this.
Your children have gone through a rough emotional and mental ordeal following the divorce. The best you can do is to be there for them. Even if they lash out, chances are they are doing so because they are craving attention. Do not ignore or neglect them, as this will only worsen the situation. Remember, quality time is key to managing negative emotions.
It is important that both of you are involved in the children’s day-to-day activities. And this calls for effective and co-ordination. The best way to ensure that everything runs smoothly is to create a co-parenting plan that is flexible enough to accommodate everyone and stick to it. Most importantly, you need to promote open communication so you can comfortably discuss any feelings and address problems before they get out of hand.
The impact of divorce on children cannot be overstated. If you have recently divorced or are going through the divorce process, it is important that you come up with a co-parenting plan that will work for everyone.