When you join your friends for drinks at the View House or another fun restaurant, it can be impossible to resist posting a picture of your cocktail, pals or appetizer to your Instagram account. You may also want to show your followers how great Mount Evans looks as it soars above the front range. While you may not give much thought to your social media posts, they could be disastrous for your divorce proceedings.
Nearly two out of three Americans use social media. If you regularly post to Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or another service, you appreciate how social media helps you document your life and stay connected with others. Nevertheless, if you are anticipating a divorce or trying to negotiate a reasonable dissolution of your marriage, you should understand how social media may affect the outcome. While you may not have to give up your social media accounts entirely, there are four types of posts you should avoid.
1. Photographs of your children
When determining who should have custody of your kids, Colorado family law judges consider their best interests. While a picture is worth a thousand words, it may not tell the entire story. Nonetheless, a judge may use photos of your children against you. Moreover, the photographs you post of your kids may irritate your spouse. Thus, until you have a custody agreement in place, keep photographs of your children off your social media accounts.
2. Information about your new love interest
Divorces can be quite emotional. While you and your spouse may have determined that you are no longer compatible, your ex may not be ready to think about you with someone else. Usually, the less acrimony in divorce proceedings, the better they are. Therefore, try to respect your spouse's feelings by not posting about your new love interest. Remember, even adding your new partner to your friends list could cause trouble.
3. Details about your divorce
Even private social media posts have a way of working their way into public view. While it may be tempting to rant about your divorce proceedings, doing so could be a big mistake. Generally, you should not say anything online that you do not want your spouse to hear or use against you. Besides, if you grouse about your divorce, your friends may cringe.
4. Proof of lavish spending
Few divorcing couples agree completely on the division of marital property. If your soon-to-be ex has a divorce lawyer, you can be certain the attorney is tracking your spending. If you take expensive vacations, buy high-end products or otherwise spend money lavishly, your spouse may successfully argue for more spousal support than you want to pay.
Social media can be incredibly addictive. It can also help you cope with stressful times in your life. While your divorce is likely to cause you some anxiety, you should resist the urge to document the experience on social media. By avoiding posts that could harm your case, you increase the likelihood of dissolving your marriage in a way that benefits you.