The decision to marry while one or both spouses are in the military can be a difficult undertaking. When one spouse is left behind during deployments to raise the family, it can create feelings of resentment and loneliness. In many cases, that can lead to a divorce for many Colorado families.

Recently, one veteran military wife wrote a book to try and help other spouses cope with the reality that comes with being married to an active duty military member. This particular woman has been married for 22 years to an active duty Navy Seal who has been deployed for months at a time while she was left to raise their sons on her own. She stated that she often felt resentment toward both her husband and his job since she felt like her marriage was a low priority. Her husband admitted that he often took her contributions for granted while he carried out his military duties.

The point of the book was to help other spouses feel that they are not alone in their marriage to a service member. The divorce rate in the military is viewed as higher than civilians based on the deployments that leave one spouse alone with the domestic duties. This particular wife left her career in order to support her husand’s and raise their family.

Though this family has survived the pressures that come with military life, not every marriage can cope with the stress. When a couple realizes that they are no longer able to withstand the constant separations or other issues that are creating the divisions in their relationship, they may decide that a divorce is the best option.  Colorado residents who are facing this prospect may be best served by consulting an attorney who is knowledgeable of both state laws and military regulations in order to arrive at the optimal settlement agreement.

Source: wtkr.com, “Wife of retired Navy SEAL writes book to help spouses cope with military life“, Margaret Kavanagh, May 2, 2018